As you might imagine this book is mainly about a girls from a wealthy background whose behaviour has resulted in her being repeatedly rejected.

It is a story unfolding and gives an interesting insight into women living in period New York.  As with anyone who ill considers others there are many innocent people dragged into the nightmare.  Her sister, who naively believes only good about her siste,r travels to New York to work with the police in solving her murder.  Gradually all those around her open up and it is revealed that the girls wasn't the innocent that everyone wanted her to be.

So it's a murder mystery with whore houses, drug dens and ore thrown in.  Most of all it is very isightful about relationships and how we believe what we want to believe based on our own value systems.

Recommended for anyone studying therapy or interested in the human mind and emotions

Author is Sandra Dallas

Well you might think the title would be enough for me to pick up that book!  You'd be wrong though.  This book by Frances Fyfield is a study in relationships between mother and daughter.  Love and hate, pity and anger all have their place.  As the story unfolds as a lot of history is revealed. 

The mother is suffering from alzheimers and although in the early stages it has made her moody and unpredictable.

The daughter has gone 'home' with a charitable do good heart she thinks... she gradually finds that she isactually looking for the love she never experienced as a child.  Disturbing and real it is a very good read.

I have reviewed a book by this author previously, you maight re seems to spend a lot of time getting to know the characters and their experiences ecall, she is a lawyer and that occupation is reflected in her research and writing.  as she tends to have what seems to be very accurate knowledge of each topic she writes about.

Recommended if you like to study people or if you are a therapist.

One of the conditions that I am most frequently asked to help with is Anxiety.  Anxiety can be very debilitating causing difficulties in the workplace and with personal relationships as well as having to suffer that nervousness and mild fear that seems to be there most of the time.

Here are some ways that hypnotherapy can help to manage nd/or alleviate unwanted anxiety.

If you can focus on the present moment, often called mindfulness, rather than projecting into the  future, based on past experiences your anxiety will lessen.

Hypnotherapy can help by introducing new thought patterns that can be more beneficial than some of those old negative thought patterns.

The mind is very powerful and taking more control over some of your thoughts can be truly amazing.  This is especially useful with specific fears and phobias when creating altrnative thoughts can have dramatic outcomes.

Defining Your Inner Strengths

Everyone has qualities and strengths that they are not aware of.  Sometimes a strength is hiding behind what you have always perceived as a weakness.  Small thought adjustments can present you with untold new strengths and resources.  For instance if you have always felt that you are over critical, the hidden strength you might discover is that you can be discerning and able to be relied upon to do a good job. 

Hypnotherapy could help you to recognise some of these hidden qualities and see them for the strengths that they could be.  The way you see yourself will change as you change your thought processes.  As children we often get moulded into our beliefs about our weaknesses and sometimes have been misguided and suppressed.

Mental Rehearsal

Imagining yourself in a situation that is causing you problems and seeing a successful outcome and confident handling can have great effect when done with hypnosis.  The advantge of hypnosis is that everything is very compelling and images can be enhanced and made more attractive..  Luckily the mind cannot discern a difference in something that is imagined with full emotions and something that is real, so rehearsing an event beforehand wil give that same buzz as if you actually did it. Great for anxiety that is specific to a situation.

It's Okay to not be happy all the time

We spend our time trying to create a utopia life.  Our lives are precarious as is the world.  We would not be normal if we did not sometimes feel down, worried, in pain....  Yet we try to fight against the physical pain that we feel as well as the emotional downs.

This fight creates a tension that effectively makes the original condition worse and can lead to health issues and physical conditions.

Going with the pain whether that is physical or mental pain will at least prevent you suffering more than you need to and give you more space to discover a better way forward.  You will often notice a significant improvement and thoughts will pass through your mind more readiliy if they are allowed to be and not resisted.

Whilst all this might seem like a mountain to climb for the consicous mind when in hypnosis it is a simple and quick method of making you more comfotable.

Find out more about anxiety on my ebsite www.andrealowehypnotherapy.co.uk

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Anne from the Hospice called in today to update us with the amount of money we raise.,  We had a target of £500 and we exceeded it by a small amount.  It was made up of on line donations/payments and cash on the day.  We would like to thank everyone who donated and /or contributed to the day.  Also we couldn't have done it without the yoga course trainees who gave their time freely in support of the event.

Visit the hospice Christmas shop on the Rock.  We have donated a meal for two in Zen.  Who knows, you might win.  Or if you have anything to donate just pop in.

I was inspired to write this blog by the illustration above by Jenna Rose.

It's an illustration of how we can make our children bad or good (whatever that is) and that's another blog.

If you only look for the things that your children do that need correcting, then  by telling them they are being naughty or they are bad or little devils etc.,  the only communication they get with you is that they are bad/wrong/naughty.  And the tone of your voice will emphasis the seriousness of the message.

It is possible that they are quite 'good' kids really but that you don't bother telling them.  You might tell your friends that you have good kids but not the kids themselves.

The more 'mistakes' the more they have the opportunity to learn the correct approach to whatever it is, but that's providing the message telling them they have made a mistake is transmitted correctly.

If you say you are a naughty child for doing that, then that is a status message.  A status message is something that just is, like you are a child, or you are tall.  So the more they are told that they are bad or naughty or evil or worse then the sooner that becomes their status.  You wonder why your child seems to be getting worse.

If you convey exactly the same message but in a different way then that has a totally different influence.  For instance 'Oh you are such a good child and that was a wrong thing to do because it was hurting someone else'  or whatever fits the circumstances and your tone of voice is firm but maybe a little surprised, then the status message is that they are good but they have made a mistake which they can learn by.

This is especially important in the formative years btw.  As children get older the language has to change a little or the  message feels like condescention.  So 'I'm suprised, that's not like you.' or 'I am relieved that you are mature/sensible enough for me not to worry about you being influenced  into taking drugs.'

As we get older and the effects of negative messages start to rear their heads and make us feel at best unsettled.  We can't find peace with ourselves and feel almost sabotaged by something within.

We start reading books with positive affirmations (to compensate for the negative ones).  making positive affirmations work is a chore and takers dedication and commitment to undo the negative feedin from the most influencial years of your life.

Parents are not bad either, it's probably the way they were treated.  But let's try and stop the loop.  Lets think before we speak and try to give our  children the best messages about themselves that we can.

Many adults end up in therapy just to clear out the implants from the past.  many don't know there is anything wrong.

If you would like to work with people to help them find the best in themselves and get rid of nagative implants then my hypnotherapy course is starting in April.  Ask me for the prospectus.

Andrea Lowe 0161 764 1440

Thank you to all who attended this event in support of Bury Hospice and our Yoga Trainee teachers.  It was an excellent day and your presence was essential.

We estimate we have raised c.£400 and will update when we hear from the hospice.

Here are the raffle prize winners

Venetian Hideaway Italian  Meal                               Sam Beach         

Naked Bars – Box of                                                       Kenny O’Donnell

Naked Bars – Box of                                                       J Sams

Naked Bars – box of                                                       Jayne

Om Bar Chocolate Box set                                            Jayne

Exotic Plant                                                                         Lesley

Singing Lesson                                                                   Chris Sherlock

SJK Facial                                                                             Chris Sams

Children’s Signed book                                                  Anne Braithwaite

Earth Mama Soul Sista creams                                    Andy Oddy

Bailey’s Afternoon Tea                                                  Lesley

Reiki Treatment                                                                Nicolette

Life Coach Session                                                           Helen

Sunday Lunch Eagle & Child                                         Mike

Lo Lo’s Vegan & Raw Voucher                                    Alex Beirne

Fusion Hair Treatment                                                   Celia

Partners Voucher                                                            Karen Boyle